Can I have more hours in a day?

 

I wear many hats in this life, I always have.  I am a wife to an awesome man, a mother to two sassy twin toddlers, a cook, or shall a say a slow cooker specialist, a house cleaner (debatable), a student (right now I am on a break until next semester to continue my prerequisites so I can work towards my nursing degree), an actress to my children that sometimes need a bit of extra in their lives… and more. For some reason that just wasn’t enough so I most recently started a small business, so add business owner to that list.

I never understood how people at a young age know exactly what to study, what career to follow, or just know what their purpose in life is.  How is it possible that at 33 years old I just found it and how exactly am I going to juggle all of these roles at the same time, without loosing the importance of being a good wife and mother, getting good grades at school and creating a successful business?  Naturally when I sit down to think about it I get upset that I wasted so much time, but only one thing gives me peace, and that is knowing how could I have started all of this before when my purpose wasn’t revealed to me until after having my kids.

So why start a business?  I’ll tell you… After having the twins and with all of Eva’s medical issues, I realized that people were first intimidated by her, and it makes sense because so was I!  As she got older and around more people, I started to notice an unusual look people would give her and I didn’t understand.  But one day a very young girl, at a Barnes and Nobles came up to Eva and myself and asked, “whats wrong with her?”  That comment confirmed my suspicion that people see her differently.  ***Sidenote, to us she looks “normal” and beautiful obviously because she is our baby grrr.**  The only thing I could think of that may get peoples attention would be her webbed neck, which is part of her syndrome.  Well, I was so livid that the little girls mom said nothing so I went off to cry with her in my arms in between an empty rows of books.  I was sad and confused not understanding how a parent could not correct their child.  I now know that people don’t always know what to say, or do and I get it.  Especially because you will get different answers from many parents that have children with special needs, but if you ask me I would say, just ask in a polite manner because staring is not appropriate in any situation.  I must admit, I am now grateful to have that experience because I knew something had to change.  It made me realize that I  will not always be able to protect my daughter, but I can raise her to be a strong woman and help many people understand that everyone is different, some just don’t hide it and to me, that is enchanting.

My business, peculiarly perfect, is a clothing line with a purpose.  It was created to bridge the gap between children with special needs and curious minds.  I started with just two shirts, one for all kids and another is for kids that have a g-tube.  I have two more designs coming out next month and much more to follow.  I will have shirts for kids that have special needs with a clever design proclaiming their differences, instead of hiding what unique qualities they have.  There will also be shirts for all kids to show support.  More importantly I will be educating the public with a tab on my website called, spotlight child!  This is where there will be a child’s story featured quarterly, along with information  on their condition so kids and adults can become educated and eventually get more comfortable with people who are different than they are.



Will I be busier than before?  Yes.  Do I think its worth it?  ABSOLUTELY!  I thank God I have some direction….. if only there were 48 hr days, instead of 24.

 

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NEW YEAR- Brand new goals.

My oh my.

I will have to start off by saying 2016 was uneventful in comparison to our past two previous years, and it was great.  So while most people hated last year, I will have to be completely honest and say, I loved it.   Eva only had one surgery, that was to correct her fundoplication and repair her hernia, other than that she has been out of the hospital, praise God!  Eidan did have a scare that we are unsure of, but we are still following up on it and he seems to be fine, God willing.  My husband is safe, and unfortunately nowadays police officers safety is non exsistent.  Last but not least I am working on my business, peculiarly perfect,  which should be launching this month and I am thrilled!

GOAL 1– Get the company up and running by January 15.  Peculiarly Perfect is a clothing line, for children with special needs and all children alike.  The purpose is to bridge the gap (that us parents that have children with extraordinary needs knows all too well) between our children and other curious minds.  There will be two collections launching, one collection will target children’s specific needs, and the other  will be for children to support anyone that is different.  We are all so very wonderfully uniquely made so the faster our kids know that, the better.  I am excited to have a section on the website that features a spotlight child monthly to educate people about our children that have these differences and also to remind everyone that what they have does not define them, it is simply a part of them.

The babies toddlers are taking so many new turns that it has inspired me to also start an instagram account for them (GOAL 2), where I can post daily updates and possibly reclaim my own personal account for myself.

GOAL 3– Be a better wife, mother and build a better relationship with the Lord because Lord knows I need it.  I am doing this with the help of a therapist and this is something that should have been done a lot earlier.  I have allowed a lingering of bad thoughts consume every part of me for a few years now, and I am so ready to throw that shit out of the door.

GOAL 4– Attempt to do a weekly blog…. I said attempt.

I am so excited about this new year, but as that excitement wears off in a few weeks I have chosen to be more excited about every day I have.

Less phone-more attention to everyone especially the kids.  Less talking- more listening.  Less fighting-more loving.  Less “the office”-more “the office”, who am I kidding, I love Dwight K. Schrute.