Can I have more hours in a day?

 

I wear many hats in this life, I always have.  I am a wife to an awesome man, a mother to two sassy twin toddlers, a cook, or shall a say a slow cooker specialist, a house cleaner (debatable), a student (right now I am on a break until next semester to continue my prerequisites so I can work towards my nursing degree), an actress to my children that sometimes need a bit of extra in their lives… and more. For some reason that just wasn’t enough so I most recently started a small business, so add business owner to that list.

I never understood how people at a young age know exactly what to study, what career to follow, or just know what their purpose in life is.  How is it possible that at 33 years old I just found it and how exactly am I going to juggle all of these roles at the same time, without loosing the importance of being a good wife and mother, getting good grades at school and creating a successful business?  Naturally when I sit down to think about it I get upset that I wasted so much time, but only one thing gives me peace, and that is knowing how could I have started all of this before when my purpose wasn’t revealed to me until after having my kids.

So why start a business?  I’ll tell you… After having the twins and with all of Eva’s medical issues, I realized that people were first intimidated by her, and it makes sense because so was I!  As she got older and around more people, I started to notice an unusual look people would give her and I didn’t understand.  But one day a very young girl, at a Barnes and Nobles came up to Eva and myself and asked, “whats wrong with her?”  That comment confirmed my suspicion that people see her differently.  ***Sidenote, to us she looks “normal” and beautiful obviously because she is our baby grrr.**  The only thing I could think of that may get peoples attention would be her webbed neck, which is part of her syndrome.  Well, I was so livid that the little girls mom said nothing so I went off to cry with her in my arms in between an empty rows of books.  I was sad and confused not understanding how a parent could not correct their child.  I now know that people don’t always know what to say, or do and I get it.  Especially because you will get different answers from many parents that have children with special needs, but if you ask me I would say, just ask in a polite manner because staring is not appropriate in any situation.  I must admit, I am now grateful to have that experience because I knew something had to change.  It made me realize that I  will not always be able to protect my daughter, but I can raise her to be a strong woman and help many people understand that everyone is different, some just don’t hide it and to me, that is enchanting.

My business, peculiarly perfect, is a clothing line with a purpose.  It was created to bridge the gap between children with special needs and curious minds.  I started with just two shirts, one for all kids and another is for kids that have a g-tube.  I have two more designs coming out next month and much more to follow.  I will have shirts for kids that have special needs with a clever design proclaiming their differences, instead of hiding what unique qualities they have.  There will also be shirts for all kids to show support.  More importantly I will be educating the public with a tab on my website called, spotlight child!  This is where there will be a child’s story featured quarterly, along with information  on their condition so kids and adults can become educated and eventually get more comfortable with people who are different than they are.



Will I be busier than before?  Yes.  Do I think its worth it?  ABSOLUTELY!  I thank God I have some direction….. if only there were 48 hr days, instead of 24.

 

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NEW YEAR- Brand new goals.

My oh my.

I will have to start off by saying 2016 was uneventful in comparison to our past two previous years, and it was great.  So while most people hated last year, I will have to be completely honest and say, I loved it.   Eva only had one surgery, that was to correct her fundoplication and repair her hernia, other than that she has been out of the hospital, praise God!  Eidan did have a scare that we are unsure of, but we are still following up on it and he seems to be fine, God willing.  My husband is safe, and unfortunately nowadays police officers safety is non exsistent.  Last but not least I am working on my business, peculiarly perfect,  which should be launching this month and I am thrilled!

GOAL 1– Get the company up and running by January 15.  Peculiarly Perfect is a clothing line, for children with special needs and all children alike.  The purpose is to bridge the gap (that us parents that have children with extraordinary needs knows all too well) between our children and other curious minds.  There will be two collections launching, one collection will target children’s specific needs, and the other  will be for children to support anyone that is different.  We are all so very wonderfully uniquely made so the faster our kids know that, the better.  I am excited to have a section on the website that features a spotlight child monthly to educate people about our children that have these differences and also to remind everyone that what they have does not define them, it is simply a part of them.

The babies toddlers are taking so many new turns that it has inspired me to also start an instagram account for them (GOAL 2), where I can post daily updates and possibly reclaim my own personal account for myself.

GOAL 3– Be a better wife, mother and build a better relationship with the Lord because Lord knows I need it.  I am doing this with the help of a therapist and this is something that should have been done a lot earlier.  I have allowed a lingering of bad thoughts consume every part of me for a few years now, and I am so ready to throw that shit out of the door.

GOAL 4– Attempt to do a weekly blog…. I said attempt.

I am so excited about this new year, but as that excitement wears off in a few weeks I have chosen to be more excited about every day I have.

Less phone-more attention to everyone especially the kids.  Less talking- more listening.  Less fighting-more loving.  Less “the office”-more “the office”, who am I kidding, I love Dwight K. Schrute.

 

 

Sometimes it is OK to cry… in the shower.

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I knew I needed a photo of today of just us, my love.

As I took a shower tonight I had to remind myself that it was ok to cry before I actually did.  I should start by saying it was a long day, and if you want to include from the start of my concern for Eidan, then we can say its been a long month.

To begin, by niece has type 1 diabetes so it has been in my life for 17 years now, so when Eidan started peeing more than usual at night in bed, I started to worry.  He has been waking up in the morning with the front of his shirt, his pants, and his bed soaked with pee.  His tantrums  also seem to come to a complete stop when I give him something to drink, telling me that he is more thirsty than normal so I made an appointment with the doctor a few weeks ago, but then I cancelled it because I thought I may have been reading into it too much.

More recently, my mom and my husband got to see and feel what I was talking about and they concluded that yes, it was a considerable amount.  So today was the actual doctors appointment and as soon as we got into the room he was fighting everyone for the first hour of vitals (including the blood work and placement of the pee bag).  The second hour he would only sit in my lap and watch videos on my phone, while we waited for him to pee in the bag.  The third hour was us walking around in the green grass trying to initiate the pee that we had been waiting for, for three hours already until it finally came.  The whole morning I was nauseous at the thought anything being wrong with my son, and by the end of the appointment, I was hungry and I had to get home to feed Eva through her g-tube, and make something for Eidan.

When we got home I got some confusing results from the nurse… first, his blood sugars from his urine was a bit high, but after I mentioned that he had just ate right before he peed in the bag, so that number was ok, then I got another call telling me that he needed to see a endocrine specialist, on top of the urology doctor because they were just a little concerned with another number (I can’t recall the name because I was in a daze because I though he was just cleared).

I can’t exactly express how I feel because I don’t know how to feel, other than I was prepared for Eva’s issues but I can’t say I am prepared for this… I don’t even know if this is a “this” yet.  But I can tell you that after my shower and my long cry I felt absolutely chosen for these two children.  Despite any more bumps in the road that we may have, no matter how many more shower cries I have from now on (whether this situation is a problem or not), I don’t care how “hard” my life may be, I can say one thing for sure… I can’t do shit without God, period.

The first 24 hours of being 2×2

Do two year olds know when they turned two and do they know that they are supposed to act entirely different as soon as their birthday hits?  Eidan and Eva apparently got that memo and they are tracking.  Here are the babies newest shenanigans…

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Eva is now more persistent than ever!  The word, “No” is just a sound that comes out of moms mouth but means absolutely nothing.  However, lets brush your teeth sends her running and screaming like a hyena.  Climbing new toys is her new thing, along with falling.  Her favorite thing to do is taking a toy that Eidan is playing with and getting upset when he takes it back from her while I sit on the side lines to see if I need to intercede.  So much fun.

Eidan is talking up a storm.  His favorite word is circles and cake.  Cake is his favorite food and has learned that when you sing them happy birthday, cake follows.  He loves to close the door on you as soon as you walk off for even a second, when you open the door he is standing there just waiting for you with the sneakiest face.  He loves screaming like a pterodactyl if anyone is too close to his toys, especially his sister.  So I hear that dinosaur scream all the time.

Update: Evas ear, nose and throat dr has confirmed she has severe apnea.  We will be seeing her dr. next month to know what his plans are for her.  I will admit, I knew she had it but I did not know how bad.  The news came as a huge surprise and it got me down because it means that inevitably she will be needing another surgery and it breaks my heart.  For the first time I will not obsess about the outcome.  I will simply take it as it comes and pray about it often.  I tend to worry about worst case scenarios and have anxiety every night but I will make a constant effort to give it to God.  This may be the hardest task for me since my imagination is absolutely on another level.

and new news……..*insert drum noises* and we have a new (possibly temporary) family member………… it’s really up to him…

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Lilo

Josh found him injured on the floor during a night run.  I called the wildlife phone number and they said they would just put him down.  I have decided to take care of him until he gets better (God willing).  He seems to be flourishing… probably because he is getting fed around the clock during the day…. literally every 15-30 min in the day.  I am glad Josh found him because having Lilo has made me realize if I have time to feed the bird I DEFINITELY have time to consistently work on feeding Eva by mouth EVERY meal. Whether she takes it or not is up to her but I have faith that she will start taking food by mouth before she is three.  If you are reading this please keep that in your prayers too.  This may be her toughest hurdle yet but I know she can do it!